10 Year Challenge

“Yesterday was not your defining moment. The calendar moved forward; why not you?”

– Steve Maraboli

A few thoughts on the #10yearchallenge that is taking social media by storm.

I know these challenges can be entertaining and fun. There appears to be mixed reactions to this latest social media trend. Some believe they are a way to mine ‘data’ for facial recognition. Others view it as a way to display how gracefully they may have aged. Some of these ‘comparisons’ are humorous, others a bit sad.

I began to ‘play the game’, but then I said, “Nah!” There are enough prompts and marketing ploys already that create insecurities and comparisons.

For my own personal health, I chose not to take part in the ‘craze’.. Instead, I will keep looking forward and making an effort to age with grace, but mostly to become a better human.

Your Defining Moment…

You would not be here today if yesterday was your defining moment. Don’t let life trick you into the impossible task of fixing a day that has already passed. Think of how much time has been lost and how much energy has been wasted in this unfruitful way of living.

Yesterday was not your defining moment. The calendar moved forward; why not you?

This new day offers you the sustenance you need to proceed on your life’s expedition. Yesterday’s sustenance has spoiled; the nutrition of yesterday has become the poison of today. Let it go.

Be fueled by the opportunities of today. Do not be passive in your life. Be courageous in driving forward in this journey of life. I know people will try to push you back. I know life will challenge you to find refuge in the past. I know the present induces fear. Do not be fooled into backwards living. Be courageous enough to keep moving forward.

Let yesterday be what it is; a reference point. It is not a reflection of where you’re going, it’s a reflection of where you were. Drive forward! Think of your car, its purpose, and how it’s designed. The purpose of your car is to help you effectively navigate your journey. Its design is one with a large windshield that faces forward and a small mirror that faces behind. When you drive, you are very attentive to what is in front of you and you use the rear-view mirror as a quick reference to aid any adjustments to your journey.

We are having a human experience; a life that moves forward whether we like it or not. Choose to stop hindering the effectiveness of your own journey by driving with the rear-view mirror. The life behind you is a reference point; use it wisely as such. As for today, look ahead and drive towards your dreams!

– Dr. Steve Maraboli

‘Don’t Look Back’
Photography by Terri Kern Pouliot

Gates of Hope

Photography by Terri Pouliot

“Our mission is to plant ourselves at the gates of hope — not the prudent gates of Optimism, which are somewhat narrower; nor the stalwart, boring gates of Common Sense; nor the strident gates of self-righteousness … nor the cheerful, flimsy garden gate of ‘Everything is gonna be all right,’ but a very different, sometimes very lonely place, the place of truth-telling, about your own soul first of all and its condition, the place of resistance and defiance, the piece of ground from which you see the world both as it is and as it could be, as it might be, as it will be; the place from which you glimpse not only struggle, but joy in the struggle — and we stand there, beckoning and calling, telling people what we are seeing, asking people what they see.”

–Victoria Safford

Connection

 

“Our world hangs like a magnificent jewel in the vastness of space. Every one of us is a part of that jewel. A facet of that jewel. And in the perspective of infinity, our differences are infinitesimal. We are intimately related. May we never even pretend that we are not.”

-Fred Rogers

 A look back at Rogers’ memorable 2002 Dartmouth commencement address.

Procrastination

PROCRASTINATION

is on my mind this morning….

Why do we put ‘things’ off?

Why are we willing to do ‘anything’ other than the ‘one thing’ we know we should be doing?

I’m not a procrastinator. I’m one of those ‘roll up your shirt sleeves and get it done’ kind of girls.

So, when I find myself avoiding a task I know needs action; I have to delve deeper and find out exactly why I am putting that particular activity on the ‘back burner’.

There are many reasons why  space exists between our intentions and actions.

There are also different types of ‘procrastinators’.

The reality is this: the end result is always the same; procrastination eats away at our most valuable asset, which is time.

We only get so much time. So why are we wasting it?

Procrastinating would seem to be a self-inflicted sort of wound that delays what we feel will result in ‘failure’.

Whenever I am dragging my feet toward action I need to dig deeper and find out what is really going on.

This winter, I found myself begrudgingly heading toward my  basement exercise room. This happened more than once. I found my morning exercise to be postponed well past its usual time.  I had to ask myself , ‘Why?’ What was it about my exercise program that I was not feeling the love?

Sometimes, it can be as simple as we need to change our routine. Maybe we need to give ourselves ‘permission’ to take a rest day. Maybe we need to make some minor adjustments to our meal design. Begin by tweaking a few minor things and see if our ‘procrastination’ lingers.

Have we been performing the routine longer than six weeks?  Are we getting impatient for results?  Do we dislike the activity?  Is our workout area bright and cheerful?  Are we getting enough sleep and recovery time?  Are we drinking enough water?

Getting to the bottom of our delay tactics requires brutal honesty with ourselves.

Get real. Let’s stop kidding ourselves.   As someone once said, “This isn’t a dress rehearsal.”  This is our life.

In my case, I needed to switch my physical design routine. I was getting bored with my current situation. I needed a change of scenery.  The boredom was not with just the exercise, either.   I was feeling antsy and ready for change in several areas of life.  Again, this realization requires us to be brutally honest AF with ourselves.   Deal with the reality then do something to change it.

I think we all postpone things from time to time. Shaming is not motivation. Fear of failure is often the truth behind stalling and needs to be dealt with realistically, if that is the root cause.   Frustration from lack of results may simply mean we need to be more realistic with our goals.  Boredom may require us to be a bit more creative with our physical activity or daily duties.

What are you trying to avoid?

We only get so much time here. I want to help us stop wasting it.

In Between

Photography by Terri Pouliot

In between.

seasons

months

years

In between.

Waiting….for the real spring to show up

the opportunities to appear

your big break

In between.

Not a place of comfort for most people.  I’ll be the first to come clean and confide it’s not my happy place.

We need to gently remind ourselves during these seasons of in between

this is where the real magic happens!

All winter long,  nature must rest and ‘toughen up’.   Germination is taking place even during the most brutal winter months.

Trust the process.  ‘In between’ can be a place of rest, renewal and preparation.

It is not the time to retreat back to bed with our favorite yoga pants and comforter.

Consistency is the thing.   Keep writing, lifting, painting, creating, eating healthy….whatever it is that you are working toward.

In between is only temporary.

Spring blooms will be soon be strutting their stuff!