10 Year Challenge

“Yesterday was not your defining moment. The calendar moved forward; why not you?”

– Steve Maraboli

A few thoughts on the #10yearchallenge that is taking social media by storm.

I know these challenges can be entertaining and fun. There appears to be mixed reactions to this latest social media trend. Some believe they are a way to mine ‘data’ for facial recognition. Others view it as a way to display how gracefully they may have aged. Some of these ‘comparisons’ are humorous, others a bit sad.

I began to ‘play the game’, but then I said, “Nah!” There are enough prompts and marketing ploys already that create insecurities and comparisons.

For my own personal health, I chose not to take part in the ‘craze’.. Instead, I will keep looking forward and making an effort to age with grace, but mostly to become a better human.

Your Defining Moment…

You would not be here today if yesterday was your defining moment. Don’t let life trick you into the impossible task of fixing a day that has already passed. Think of how much time has been lost and how much energy has been wasted in this unfruitful way of living.

Yesterday was not your defining moment. The calendar moved forward; why not you?

This new day offers you the sustenance you need to proceed on your life’s expedition. Yesterday’s sustenance has spoiled; the nutrition of yesterday has become the poison of today. Let it go.

Be fueled by the opportunities of today. Do not be passive in your life. Be courageous in driving forward in this journey of life. I know people will try to push you back. I know life will challenge you to find refuge in the past. I know the present induces fear. Do not be fooled into backwards living. Be courageous enough to keep moving forward.

Let yesterday be what it is; a reference point. It is not a reflection of where you’re going, it’s a reflection of where you were. Drive forward! Think of your car, its purpose, and how it’s designed. The purpose of your car is to help you effectively navigate your journey. Its design is one with a large windshield that faces forward and a small mirror that faces behind. When you drive, you are very attentive to what is in front of you and you use the rear-view mirror as a quick reference to aid any adjustments to your journey.

We are having a human experience; a life that moves forward whether we like it or not. Choose to stop hindering the effectiveness of your own journey by driving with the rear-view mirror. The life behind you is a reference point; use it wisely as such. As for today, look ahead and drive towards your dreams!

– Dr. Steve Maraboli

‘Don’t Look Back’
Photography by Terri Kern Pouliot

Why Bother?


This is a question I repeatedly get asked, especially when someone is overwhelmed by the thought of embarking on healthier lifestyle.


We’re all gonna die anyway, so what’s the point of eating well and exercising? (No, really.)

The answers to this question are multi-faceted, but Kelly Coffey, of Strong Coffey, responded best.

“Practice living with intention and treating yourself well. Bother to care for and about yourself and your body, and your first minutes will feel like new beginnings. Ignore your body’s needs, neglect yourself, or continue to justify not treating yourself well, and your first minutes will be torture.Wellness: Why Bother? www.strongcoffey.com #wellness #health #truth

“And here’s the thing – your first minutes are unavoidable. Even if you graduate and get rich, you can’t ever outsource your first minute. You can’t hire someone to deal with it for you. Yes, you’re gonna die. We’re all gonna die. But until that hammer drops, you alone have to experience the first minute of every single day between now and then. We’re talking tens of thousands of times. Practicing wellness every day or not is what really makes life feel meaningful or not . Dying only happens once. Relative to the those thousands of first minutes, dying is small potatoes.


“I’ve spent years harming myself and years healing myself. I’ve had thousands of first minutes that were torture and thousands that were good, and I can tell you that nothing has more of an impact on how we feel about just being alive. Compared to how you feel in your first minutes, it doesn’t matter what degree you have or where you live or how many clubs you join. It doesn’t matter what you do for work or how much money you make or who you marry. It doesn’t matter how you look or where you work or what you wear. It doesn’t matter who you spend time with or what books you read or how you pray. It doesn’t even matter what you weigh or how old you are.”

I could not have answered this better!


Here’s the link to the full blog:


Steps to Self-Care


“Treat yourself with love and respect, and you will attract people who show you love and respect.”

— Rhonda Byrne

Simple steps to self respect and care:

–Sleep (7 to 8 hours per night)
–Hydrate (fresh, filtered water)
–Vegetables (locally grown, fresh if possible)
–Unplug (take some time each day away from electronics)
–Take a hike
–Power Nap (feeling stressed? Slow down)
–Learn to say, ‘NO’
–De-Clutter (start small if you must)
–Meditate / Pray
–Step away from the computer (get up often and walk about)
–Breathe (deep oxygenating breaths)
–15 minutes of sunlight (don’t forget the sunscreen)
–Exercise your strength (do something you totally rock at!)
–Journal (write down your strengths)
–Gratitude (jot down something that is going awesomely)
–Treat yourself (think small; a book, lipstick, small luxury item)
–Cloud Watch
–Artwork (head to the museum or nearest gallery)
–Cuddle (your pet, your friend, significant other)
–Help someone (pay it forward….there are millions of ways)
–Infuse your home with pleasant aromas (flowers, spices…)
–Wear something that makes you feel fabulous
–Add something nourishing to your meals
–Try something totally new
–Be still (find a beautiful, calming spot)
–Connect ( say something kind to strangers)
–Laugh (funny movie, book or with a friend)
–Dance (crank up the jams!)
–Step out of your comfort zone
–Socialize with family / friends
–Yoga or Pilates (Restorative and relaxing)

These are just a few examples of small acts of self-care. As we head into the busiest time of year; it’s essential to slow down and provide our bodies and minds with daily rituals that help reduce cortisol, and keep our hormones balanced.