“Well, for one thing, the culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. We’re teaching the wrong things. And you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn’t work, don’t buy it. Create your own. Most people can’t do it.”
― Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie
I’ve been thinking about this quite a bit lately…
Our culture is spiraling out of control. I feel it, sense it, and am witness to it almost daily. Humans are becoming more agitated, stressed, rude, hostile and, here’s the worst one; disconnected.
Social media is a big part of the blame. Electronics are another. We are constantly ‘plugged’ in and not ‘tuned’ in.
We live our lives in comparison mode. We don’t feel good about ‘ourselves’ because everyone else’s lives look so much healthier, happier, more fun, ______ Fill in the blank with your own comparative adjective.
We are chasing the ‘wrong’ things in life. And missing the most important lessons of all.
The ‘health and wellness’ industry is amassing billions of our hard earned dollars by selling us ‘quick fixes’ to ‘feel’ better about ourselves.
The ‘self-help’ industry is getting wealthy by our lack of ‘feeling good’ in our own skin.
But here’s the thing.
NONE OF THIS IS WORKING.
We are missing the key element.
We are starved for it. In fact, I believe our lack of human connection (love) is one of the main reasons for our addiction to social media and our electronics.
We believe we are connecting…but we aren’t. We follow celebrities, athletes, instagram stars and are addicted to following these people like they are family. They aren’t even real! These larger than life people have created an image. And we fall for the distraction.
And yet, we aren’t connecting to the people around us. You know, the very people who were put in our path. We are lacking the basic intimacy with other humans that we desperately crave.
We have forgotten how to communicate. Converse with one another.
We must learn how to reconnect. We have to return to love.
It’s a basic human need. Or we are missing the whole point of life.